Divorce: Worldwide Problem
Divorce is defined as an action that “impels an individual or couple to decide to permanently dissolve a marital union” (Causes of Divorce). Common reasons for divorce are stress, lack of communication, money issues, and cheating on each other. Communication can become a prior problem if the two mates choose to bury the issues rather than address them. “In a game of football or baseball, it’s essential that players of the team communicate with one another in order to run their plays” (The 10 Most Common Causes of Divorce). In a relationship, the two players on the team are the husband and wife of a relationship. Without adequate communication, the plays, or in this case, marriage will not run smoothly. Divorce is caused by lack of communication, money issues, and cheating and can be solved by better money management, better communication, and counseling.
Money issues can also lead to a divorce. Trust sometimes starts to wither in a relationship “making the love of money…the cause of all evil…arguments, fights, and court actions” (The 10 Most Common Causes of Divorce). Additionally, “infidelity causes pain and suffering to parties involved” and is known as “one of the leading causes to divorce” (The 10 Most Common Causes of Divorce). Divorce brings long term affects on families, children, and friends other than the couple themselves. Close ones start to experience a feeling or distraught and loneliness. Divorce is an issue that needs to be solved so families can remain united. Mainly, in the future, children will experience live as a struggle. It is reported by experts that “42% of children with divorced parents say they face many more challenges than other children.” If couples remained courted, family life would prove to be stronger and healthier. In the future, if this problem is not resolved, an increasing number of families will turn out separated which will cause tension in arrangements. However, the problem, divorce can be solved if couples receive counseling and communicate on a regular basis. Counseling and better communication skills are required in order to minimize divorces.
It is recorded that “50% of all first marriages in America end in divorce” (Divorce Rate). Divorce Rate have increased due to many different reasons such as lack of communication. However, others believe many have divorced for other reasons other than the one mentioned earlier such as parental patterns and irreconcilable differences. Of adults whose parents were divorced, “only 60% marry, with 50% marrying before age 25 and most marrying people they had known only a short-time” (Relationship Reasons for Divorce). Referring to the statistics motioned, “40% of them eventually divorce” whereas in marriages where their parents were together, “80% marry and 9% of them divorce” (Relationship Reasons for Divorce). Furthermore, others believe marriages end due to irreconcilable differences such as balancing time between home and work. A mate in the relationship may spend more time working than quality time with his/her spouse. This, of course, can make the spouse feel lonely. The spouse also may feel he/she is put on the “backburner,” so-to-speak to the mate’s priorities and responsibilities. This can cause problems intimately and rise tension in the household.
The issues previously mentioned are problems that can cause divorce. Those problems, however, are not the main reasons why marriages do not work. Statistics show that most divorces result from problems with children, money, and communication. “Families with children make up a large proportion of marriages ending in divorce” which “can have a huge impact on not just American families, but the American culture as a whole” (The 10 Most Common Causes of Divorce). Delinquent behavior results from situations such as these noting that “85% of children with behavioral problems and 71% of high school dropouts” result from children who live in fatherless homes (The 10 Most Common Causes of Divorce). Furthermore, kids in such situations are more likely to become pregnant during teenage years and become single parents themselves. Another reason is “money problems” which “are often cited as the number one cause of divorce in America” (The 10 Most Common Causes of Divorce). As being the number one cause for divorce, money issues compose of a massive percentage of divorces overall. Communication, also, proves to be extremely important in keeping a marriage together. Without communication, a relationship is not a relationship. Communication is a key factor in success during a marriage. It allows mates to feel the attitudes of their partner and allows him/her to relate to the matter. Also, it keeps down tension with dealing with matters. Money, children, and lack of communication prove to make up the majority of reasons why people file for divorce.
To decrease the Divorce Rate, many couples can consider marriage counseling as a solution. “Couples who received premarital counseling have a much lower rate of divorce” (The 10 Most Common Causes of Divorce). Counseling saves marriages simply because it allows couples to work out their differences in a calm and peaceful environment before actual situations arise. Counseling allows both mates to relieve built up stress from the marriage and communicate with each other about their problems. Communication is the key necessity for a successful relationship. Without it, many marriages fail which leads to divorce. However, some people may feel that counseling does not benefit a couple because a couple must first know what they are doing wrong in order to benefit the relationship. Some people think otherwise. Furthermore, the counselor aids both of the couples by shedding her/his insight on the marriage and what he/she thinks can improve. By both of the mates working on the points given by the counselor, it is proven that most marriages are saved and leaves everyone including the mates, friends, family, and kids, happy. Every competent counselor knows that no matter what the marriage problem may be, the system that sustains it is found in both people. Both mates need each other in order to endure their problems. Many marriage mates forget that they need each other in order to prevail. However, a marriage counselor will remind the couple of that important fact which can unite couples again.
Another solution is better communication, which is one of the results from receiving counseling, improves relationships as well. “Communication is the mortar that holds a relationship together – if it breaks down, the relationship will crumble…it is no longer a marriage” (Bellows). Good communication in marriage is “respectful…quantitative…a two way street…honest” and a key necessity in order for a relationship to thrive (Northcutt). Improved communication starts with respect. Respect allows one to “accept another person’s point of view wholeheartedly” (Bellows). Peace is one result that will be granted through better communication. Endurance will result as well which will bring about happier marriage mates. Love will also strengthen making it “only through good, true communication can one realize the joy of love” (Bellows).
Couples should consider professional counseling and improve in communication in order to maintain their marriage. Counseling allows both mates to vent to each other in a peaceable way and environment which get points across in a beneficial way. Studies show that “75% of couples receiving therapy are better off than similar couples who did not receive therapy” and “65% of couples report significant improvement” (Mill). Counseling, no doubt, helps a relationship. Better communication contributes to the success of a marriage. If the community does not adopt these solutions and take action in their marriage, divorce rate will decline. There will also be an increase in the amount of delinquent behaved children as well as a decrease in the amount of happy families and people overall. No doubt, taking action and using these solutions will not be an easy task. However, endurance and the time put into it is worth the effort. The results from counseling and improving in communication allow couples to reveal their problems with each other and provide space for correction. Small steps can be taken to achieve the final results such as showing one other respect and calmly discussing situations and problems with one another. The final results will not disappoint but instead, they will result in happiness between family, friends, and children, and the couple themselves.
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